A day in the life · Feminism · Pregnancy

Rude things people say to you when you are pregnant

Cross-posted from mumsnet

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Work colleague 1 (female): “SO ARE YOU PREGNANT???!?” (very loudly, in the middle of our shared kitchen, 2 weeks before I had even told my boss)

Work colleague 2 (female): “I knew you were pregnant when I saw you from behind because you are… wider!”

Work colleague 3 (male): “I knew you were pregnant before you said anything because you know… massive boobs!”

Work colleague 3 (male): “How long will you be with us for?” Because I’d clearly leave work and become a stay at home mum after having a baby. (Nothing wrong with staying at home with kids obviously, only with the assumption that this will definitely be the case.)

Work colleague 4 (male): “So when are you going to POP??!?”

Work colleague 5 (male): “Don’t worry about working so close to your due date, I’m sure the baby will be late as all people from [insert Southern European country I’m originally from] are always late!”

More than one work colleagues: “Are you SURE you’re not having twins??”

I could go on. What suddenly dawned on me while writing this is that, when put together, these seemingly¬†innocuous comments clearly show the level of entitlement people have to observe and comment on women’s bodies, especially when pregnant. I mean, I had no idea these people that I bump into every day and chat over a cup of tea in the kitchen even looked at my boobs and waist size?! And even though I was fully aware of attitudes towards pregnant women and I got annoyed with each individual comment at the time, looking at these comments together somehow makes it so much more obvious.

So next time you see a pregnant woman, please kindly STFU. x

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