A day in the life · Feminism · Pregnancy

Rude things people say to you when you are pregnant

Cross-posted from mumsnet

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Work colleague 1 (female): “SO ARE YOU PREGNANT???!?” (very loudly, in the middle of our shared kitchen, 2 weeks before I had even told my boss)

Work colleague 2 (female): “I knew you were pregnant when I saw you from behind because you are… wider!”

Work colleague 3 (male): “I knew you were pregnant before you said anything because you know… massive boobs!”

Work colleague 3 (male): “How long will you be with us for?” Because I’d clearly leave work and become a stay at home mum after having a baby. (Nothing wrong with staying at home with kids obviously, only with the assumption that this will definitely be the case.)

Work colleague 4 (male): “So when are you going to POP??!?”

Work colleague 5 (male): “Don’t worry about working so close to your due date, I’m sure the baby will be late as all people from [insert Southern European country I’m originally from] are always late!”

More than one work colleagues: “Are you SURE you’re not having twins??”

I could go on. What suddenly dawned on me while writing this is that, when put together, these seemingly┬áinnocuous comments clearly show the level of entitlement people have to observe and comment on women’s bodies, especially when pregnant. I mean, I had no idea these people that I bump into every day and chat over a cup of tea in the kitchen even looked at my boobs and waist size?! And even though I was fully aware of attitudes towards pregnant women and I got annoyed with each individual comment at the time, looking at these comments together somehow makes it so much more obvious.

So next time you see a pregnant woman, please kindly STFU. x

Architecture & design · Art · Interiors

Cacti wall gallery!

Back in the Before Little One Era, parenthood was not something I was giving serious thought to. In fact, I used to joke that the only live organism I had ever managed to keep alive was a small cactus thriving on neglect in my student room, and that with not much success admittedly. Things have changed since then and since we’re now doing adult pretty well and we have the new guest room wall to decorate, I thought it’s about time we hosted a cacti wall gallery! Cue Pinterest for inspiration.

The only problem being that we’ll need a few more walls as my next project will have to be a babushka gallery.